We undergo several transitions in our lifetime, may it be from childhood to adolescence or from being a father of a baby to that of a teen or changing into a new role. Each transition brings its own challenges and excitement. Some of these are easy to handle while some of them are pretty tough. Ever wonder how to make these transitions smooth?
We decide to make the change. Nobody else other than we ourselves are responsible for making the shift. Once this principle is accepted and applied, half of our woes will disappear. Several times, we find other going to be tough and start blaming someone else for the trouble. Right from simple events of getting late to a meeting to major decisions such as marriage, divorce, having children, changing jobs and so on, when the going gets tough, many of us tend to externalise the issue. For example, we blame the traffic for the delay in reaching the destination; we blame our spouse to have been extravagant and explain why the savings are poor. In both the cases, it was I who didn’t plan for reaching the destination on time and I am trying to shirk away from responsibility by holding someone else for the failure to meet targets. We try to find someone else accountable for the pain, declare ourselves to be a victim of the situation. However, this doesn’t make the journey easy; neither it allows any learning to be drawn out of the situation. Hence, the first rule is to accept the reality and own up the action.
Having climbed the most important step, I think, it’s all about resilience. Even if the journey is unexpectedly smooth, it’s important that we apply restraint on our minds and let the success not get to our heads. And, it’s also the same while dealing with failure. We need to demonstrate character while facing any upheaval, positive or negative. Resilience keeps one going and makes the days look more balanced than they otherwise could have been otherwise. This inspires confidence in others that the transition is associated with unplanned surprises and they will be dealt with.
Last, but not the least, it’s important that we stay together at the time of wading through a change process. The journey through this process will always be riddled with a few obstacles and at times, unexpected tail winds do help. In either case, the joy and the pain can be equally shared with the people who empathise with us. The process suddenly look easier to deal with and ride over!
So, in my mind, it’s about owning up the transition, staying balanced and associating with a group of empathisers. Let’s do it!